Why do all girls hang up on me?

This is a subject that I have wanted to address for a long time but because it is not directly related to money, I have been putting it off, but I can’t put it off any longer because I think about it all the time.

First a little background: My children are of the age where they have cell phones and their friends call them directly on their cell phones (the monthly expense of each phone is calculated and managed well within our budget – this is not the subject). Sometime when one of their phones ring and they are not in the area, I answer. When it is a boy who is calling, he is usually polite, says “hello” and asks to speak with one of my kids. When it’s a girl, she hangs up!

Why?! What is it in our cultural climate that causes the girls to hang up? I’m a girl. Was I like that?

Now, my kids are both male and female, so you can’t say that the girls are embarrassed to ask for the boys – this is not the case (and in addition, even though they usually are, they shouldn’t be).

Beside that fact that it is unpleasant to have someone hang up on you, I write about this because I am truly concerned. I really want these girls to grow up and dare to have challenging goals and be confident that they can achieve them. Not that this kind of automatic reaction dictates that they won’t, but…

I think that we should encourage confidence and assertiveness in our children – boys and girls alike.

I think that they should be ready for little and big “surprises” and know how to react quickly and confidently – boys and girls alike.

I see that even at a young age, the boys are already confident and assertive – they are already there - with no special effort. It’s the girls that need to work on it (and unfortunately it is work and not natural).

I wish that these girls were confident enough to know that they have a right to call their friends and that they were assertive enough to ask their rights.

A person’s rights come in all sizes and forms. The right to speak your mind or speak to someone (anyone) or ask for things that you want or learn things that you want or even manage your own money…

Girls ! Don’t hang up! Ask for what you want. The worse thing that could happen is that you get it J

Mindy